Body Work: The Radical Power of Personal Narrative

Body Work: The Radical Power of Personal Narrative

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  • Author:Melissa Febos
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Summary

Memoir meets craft masterclass in this “daring, honest, psychologically insightful” exploration of how we think and write about intimate experiences—“a must read for anybody shoving a pen across paper or staring into a screen or a past" (Mary Karr)。

In this bold and exhilarating mix of memoir and master class, Melissa Febos tackles the emotional, psychological, and physical work of writing intimately while offering an utterly fresh examination of the storyteller’s life and the questions which run through it。

How might we go about capturing on the page the relationships that have formed us? How do we write about our bodies, their desires and traumas? What does it mean for an author’s way of writing, or living, to be dismissed as “navel-gazing”—or else hailed as “so brave, so raw”? And to whom, in the end, do our most intimate stories belong?

Drawing on her own path from aspiring writer to acclaimed author and writing professor—via addiction and recovery, sex work and Harvard night school—Melissa Febos has created a captivating guide to the writing life, and a brilliantly unusual exploration of subjectivity, privacy, and the power of divulgence。 Candid and inspiring, Body Work will empower readers and writers alike, offering ideas—and occasional notes of caution—to anyone who has ever hoped to see themselves in a story。

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Reviews

Nancy HellaThriftBooks

First non-fiction read of the year! This book deepened my understanding of the powerful magic that happens when people write their stories。 Chapters include discussions around writing your truth to understand yourself (the writer of memoirs)deeply。 This book taught me to read memoirs with appreciation for the writing and privilege of hearing others stories。 Thank you netgalley for providing the audiobook ARC。

Lili

Febos is an award winning writer who explores the deepest darkest depths of her personal self via her memoirs。 Body Work is another memoir of sorts, put forward via the essay form; fixating on Febos' thought process, how she writes and how she stays true to the gritty realities of her life which some would deem too personal to share with the world。 The four essays within also explore how Febos has evolved as a writer with age, experience, knowledge and emotional intelligence; she advises that th Febos is an award winning writer who explores the deepest darkest depths of her personal self via her memoirs。 Body Work is another memoir of sorts, put forward via the essay form; fixating on Febos' thought process, how she writes and how she stays true to the gritty realities of her life which some would deem too personal to share with the world。 The four essays within also explore how Febos has evolved as a writer with age, experience, knowledge and emotional intelligence; she advises that there are no rules to writing other than the rule to not hurt unnecessarily。A very interesting and eloquently written insight into the mind and process of a great writer。 。。。more

Jordan

Thank you to NetGalley and HighBridge Audio for the advanced audio ARC in exchange for an honest review。 "Every single thing I have created worth a damn has been a practice of love, healing and redemption。 I know this process to be divine。"Wow。 I wasn’t familiar with Febos’ work, but after reading Body Work I am looking forward to reading her memoir Whip Smart。 Her voice is clear, smart, and unapologetic。 In Body Work, she drew from her lifetime of experience as a writer, academic, sex worke Thank you to NetGalley and HighBridge Audio for the advanced audio ARC in exchange for an honest review。 "Every single thing I have created worth a damn has been a practice of love, healing and redemption。 I know this process to be divine。"Wow。 I wasn’t familiar with Febos’ work, but after reading Body Work I am looking forward to reading her memoir Whip Smart。 Her voice is clear, smart, and unapologetic。 In Body Work, she drew from her lifetime of experience as a writer, academic, sex worker, recovered addict, queer person, and (above all else) a woman, to talk about how our experiences shape us and give us a voice。 The book is organized as a collection of essays where she gives clear pieces of practical advice about how to write about ourselves or others with examples from her own work and that of other writers she respects。 She attacks those who try and restrict the way artists create (see: her view on “unrules”), and empowers the reader to block external voices and their inner critics in order to tell their stories authentically。 I work in a creative profession and I am a feminist but I am not a writer。 I listened to this as an audiobook。 The author's narration of her book was great, but the book was somewhat advanced at times and I think I would have been able to process it better if I had read it in print or e-book format。 It would likely be more digestible in an audio format for professional writers。 But I thoroughly enjoyed it nonetheless, and was moved by it。 I listened to the last section multiple times because it was so beautiful and I wasn't ready for it to end。 And it even included a lyric from one of my very favorite songs - what a treat。 。。。more

Ella Birt

This is my first time reading anything by Melissa Febos, and now I’ve vowed to become a Febos completist! Body Work by Melissa Febos offers creative nonfiction essays about the vital importance of writing about trauma in a society that shames people into silence and the transformative internal work that goes along with reclaiming your story。 We delve into how to write honestly about sex, how the process can make us more aware of the difference between internalized misogyny and our own truest des This is my first time reading anything by Melissa Febos, and now I’ve vowed to become a Febos completist! Body Work by Melissa Febos offers creative nonfiction essays about the vital importance of writing about trauma in a society that shames people into silence and the transformative internal work that goes along with reclaiming your story。 We delve into how to write honestly about sex, how the process can make us more aware of the difference between internalized misogyny and our own truest desires, how to write about other people without destroying them or ourselves in the process, and some of the deeply spiritual aspects of writing。While reading this book, I was also taking an online course in creative nonfiction。 As a newbie, I felt frozen, staring at the blank page, questioning whether I could really write about trauma。 I wanted to write about sex, queer sex, dissociation, growing up an unusually precocious and sensitive child, the pervasiveness of patriarchal oppression, and I needed to make it compelling and honest and to “excavate events for which I had been numb on the first go-around。” I saw myself in Febos, and seeing her thrive and heal and do so through writing gave me a framework to visualize what I want in my own creative life。 Body Work found me at the exact moment I needed it most。 One of my favorite essays in Body Work is A Big Shitty Party: Six Parables of Writing About Other People。 I feel relieved to have read this essay before publishing anything of note! Febos shared her own mistakes, regrets, and shifts in perspective with such insight that my own immaturity as a writer felt impossible to ignore。 I had ideas for essays that had long been brewing that weren’t necessarily cruel nor untrue, but they could sting someone。 Febos reminded me, “There are good essays that there are good reasons not to write,” but also, “…a difference in individual truths is not always a conflict。 So long as we don’t try to speak for each other, there is room in our house for more than one story。”I’m always looking for books that illuminate the experience of gifted children (a term that’s not always appealing, and yet we don’t have any other highly recognizable terms for intellectually advanced kids and adults), as these children tend to have difficulty seeing themselves reflected in the world。 She describes her heightened perceptivity, openness to spiritual experience, early advanced reading and writing abilities: “I wanted to be a writer very young because writer was the only role I could see myself occupying in society, the only one that might hold everything that I was: queer, overly emotional, burdensomely perceptive, reluctant to do any kind of work whose purpose was opaque to me, ravenous in ways that made me an outlier。 It was an occupation that seemed to offer respite and relief, but also was connected to the sublime—it offered the gift of self-forgetting, a transcendence on the other side of which lay insight。 I did not think to compare this with any description of religious experience, because I had not read any。 Now, it seems obvious。”My copy of Body Work is so laden with highlights, it’s impossible to pick out the most profound or exciting quotes。 I felt magnetically drawn into the writing world of Febos with each essay。 This book is like a course in itself, and I’m sure I’ll read it dozens of times over the next few years both to learn and measure my learning and just to hear the voice of someone who actually gets it…someone who has done the work, knows the work never ends, and sees transformation and art as necessary to one another。 I recommend this book to writers of all experience levels, and to anyone who has ever considered telling their own story through memoir。 If you consider yourself an intersectional feminist, queer, contemplative, and literary, this book is a dreamscape of inspiration。 Thank you, NetGalley, for this ARC! 。。。more

Tessa

Thank you, NetGalley for a copy of "Body Work。" The first chapter, for me, was incredibly moving and powerful。 The craft and content of this text were remarkable。 I started writing down quotes to highlight, but there were so many。 I appreciated Febos' messaging of "don't avoid yourself" and "I don't believe in writers' block, only fear。" This book is organized around a few key ideas, and is grounded in a deep understanding of not just how published words affect readers but how the writer "change Thank you, NetGalley for a copy of "Body Work。" The first chapter, for me, was incredibly moving and powerful。 The craft and content of this text were remarkable。 I started writing down quotes to highlight, but there were so many。 I appreciated Febos' messaging of "don't avoid yourself" and "I don't believe in writers' block, only fear。" This book is organized around a few key ideas, and is grounded in a deep understanding of not just how published words affect readers but how the writer "changes" through the process of writing。 I loved how Febos addressed her reader directly and blended historical elements with lightness; I always appreciate a good semicolon quip。 Ultimately, I was really left wanting more。 Just personally, I felt like I had so much more I wanted to hear about this from Febos。 。。。more

Mara

Body Work: The Radical Power of Personal Narrative by Melissa Febos is a thoughtfully-written collections of essays about writing our own stories。 It is very academic and feminist and makes you consider your own experiences and how dominant society and culture color our perspective unless we actively fight against it。 Febos ruminates on the craft of writing and about truth with its subjectivity tied to a person’s perspective。 Overall, I found this incredibly fascinating and gave me food for thou Body Work: The Radical Power of Personal Narrative by Melissa Febos is a thoughtfully-written collections of essays about writing our own stories。 It is very academic and feminist and makes you consider your own experiences and how dominant society and culture color our perspective unless we actively fight against it。 Febos ruminates on the craft of writing and about truth with its subjectivity tied to a person’s perspective。 Overall, I found this incredibly fascinating and gave me food for thought, especially the parts where she goes over the possible ethical concerns about writing about other people and reframing our own stories through introspection。 I am not a writer, but was an English major in college and lifelong feminist, so I really enjoyed this book。 Thank you Catapult + HighBridge Audio for providing this ebook + audiobook ARC。 。。。more

Megan

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Rennie

Really good, and some truly sublime ideas, but sometimes a little too academic in areas that weren’t well served by it。 I haven’t read her other books but I liked seeing what made her turn to memoir in the first place。 She’s much more eloquent about her reasons than most could be, I think, even if the reasons are often very similar。

Julia Jenne

Felt so fancy getting to read the ARC。 It's amazing! Felt so fancy getting to read the ARC。 It's amazing! 。。。more

Carrie

Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC of this title。 Melissa Febos delivered yet another brilliant, vulnerable, and thought-provoking book。 Though it was shorter than some of her others, it was no less powerful。 I consider myself an amateur writer, but even if I didn't, I would find plenty to resonate within this well-researched and argued defense of the personal narrative。 If you haven't read Febos yet, start at the beginning, because everything she does is fire。 Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC of this title。 Melissa Febos delivered yet another brilliant, vulnerable, and thought-provoking book。 Though it was shorter than some of her others, it was no less powerful。 I consider myself an amateur writer, but even if I didn't, I would find plenty to resonate within this well-researched and argued defense of the personal narrative。 If you haven't read Febos yet, start at the beginning, because everything she does is fire。 。。。more

Claire S

I am always wary of the pivot from memoir/essay to craft。 Sometimes it can feel unnecessary and a bit sales-focused, similar to when fiction writers start to publish random non-fiction essays right around the time a new book comes out。 But each of Febos's previous books has impacted me in profound ways as both a reader and writer, and so having become something of a completist, I felt compelled to read an ARC of Body Work as soon as it was offered。 Unsurprisingly, Febos's prose did not disappoin I am always wary of the pivot from memoir/essay to craft。 Sometimes it can feel unnecessary and a bit sales-focused, similar to when fiction writers start to publish random non-fiction essays right around the time a new book comes out。 But each of Febos's previous books has impacted me in profound ways as both a reader and writer, and so having become something of a completist, I felt compelled to read an ARC of Body Work as soon as it was offered。 Unsurprisingly, Febos's prose did not disappoint here, either。 None of her discussions in the book felt superfluous or staid or the least bit filler。 I appreciated her thoughtfulness as usual, and also her ability to speak from the position as both teacher and writer。 。。。more

Laura

Melissa Febos’ Body Work is part craft book and part memoir of a writing life。 There is a lot to learn from Febos’ experiences for budding writers of nonfiction。 I’m particular, I enjoyed “In Praise of Navel Gazing” a treatise on the value of women’s personal writing, so often dismissed as self indulgent and frivolous。

Rebecca

A boldly feminist essay collection that explores how autobiographical writing can help one face regrets and trauma and extract meaning from the "pliable material" of memory。 "In Praise of Navel Gazing" affirms the importance of women airing their stories of abuse and thereby challenging the power structures that aim to keep victims silent。 Febos, a former dominatrix, explains in "Mind Fuck" how she asks her writing students to produce five-sentence sexual histories to force them past familiar tr A boldly feminist essay collection that explores how autobiographical writing can help one face regrets and trauma and extract meaning from the "pliable material" of memory。 "In Praise of Navel Gazing" affirms the importance of women airing their stories of abuse and thereby challenging the power structures that aim to keep victims silent。 Febos, a former dominatrix, explains in "Mind Fuck" how she asks her writing students to produce five-sentence sexual histories to force them past familiar tropes。 "A Big Shitty Party" warns of the dangers of writing about real people; Febos advises readers to take out the specifics - and any cruelty - and to run a draft, if possible, past the people portrayed as main characters。 "The Return" employs religious language for the transformation writing can achieve: a change of heart and a confessional attitude are the keys to gaining necessary perspective on an experience。See my full Shelf Awareness review。 Posted with permission。 。。。more

Jamie

There is an abundance of rich lessons about writing and acceptance in this book。 I wish I had come to it with more context on Febos as a writer—as I’ve only read essays and the beginning of Girlhood。 But I was drawn to Body Work because of my research in memoir/autotheory and my curiosity about the book’s subtitle: The Radical Power of Personal Narrative。 Febos delivers on that promise in many ways, from rejecting the dismissal of memoir as navel-gazing to celebrating the complexity and difficul There is an abundance of rich lessons about writing and acceptance in this book。 I wish I had come to it with more context on Febos as a writer—as I’ve only read essays and the beginning of Girlhood。 But I was drawn to Body Work because of my research in memoir/autotheory and my curiosity about the book’s subtitle: The Radical Power of Personal Narrative。 Febos delivers on that promise in many ways, from rejecting the dismissal of memoir as navel-gazing to celebrating the complexity and difficulty about writing about sex and relationships。 She examines core questions of her writer’s life and themes that have been persistent in her work。 She challenges the reader to dig into their own obsessions and fears and questions with the admission, “When I say that I have no regrets, it might sound arrogant。 What I mean is that I have returned to the parts of my past that pained me and uncovered the aspects that I most wanted to avoid。” She demonstrates the value of cultivating insight on our past experiences and how essential that is to a writers identity。 I brought a lot of expectations to this book, with little context。 While I was looking for more commentary/ analysis of personal narrative as a tool to be in conversation with others (kind of from that writerly or scholarly perspective), Febos appeals to a broader reader, particularly the audience she already knows she has。 And hey, she’s smart to do that。 。。。more

Jumi Bello

Never again will I berate myself for navel gazing。 In fact, there may not be a navel left to begin with, given my experience reading this---this book gutted me。 I was enamored with its radical vulnerability, where the prose is written in such a way that it gives me permission to wield the same kind of strength that Febos hones through the descriptions inherent to her prose。

Mandy Hazen

This book takes an empathetic approach and gives bite size approaches and allows you to have kindness and patience with yourself when dealing with life。 This is so necessary for everyone to read in life。 Highly recommend。 Especially loved the reflection to true life to humanize my feelings and relate。 I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily。

Megan

If you love Melissa Febos, you will love this。 If you love books on craft, you won't know what hit you –– and you will be a better writer [and person] for it。 This book is a permission slip to tell your story, replete with detailed notes from the field。 If you love Melissa Febos, you will love this。 If you love books on craft, you won't know what hit you –– and you will be a better writer [and person] for it。 This book is a permission slip to tell your story, replete with detailed notes from the field。 。。。more

Ruth

Melissa Febos' work is deeply, personally autobiographical。 Her previous books have concentrated on her experiences and the lessons learned as a pro-domme and drug addict; her exploration of her love relationships; her growing up female。 In this new book, she consolidates all and concentrates on her process as a writer。For writers, this is an invaluable tool for self-reflection, giving oneself permission to write your truth, and editing what eventually feels superfluous。 There are writing exerci Melissa Febos' work is deeply, personally autobiographical。 Her previous books have concentrated on her experiences and the lessons learned as a pro-domme and drug addict; her exploration of her love relationships; her growing up female。 In this new book, she consolidates all and concentrates on her process as a writer。For writers, this is an invaluable tool for self-reflection, giving oneself permission to write your truth, and editing what eventually feels superfluous。 There are writing exercises offered, and Febos' own personal revelations after her own experiences with them。 She writes about her students and teaching in a way that subtly inspires students and teachers alike to expand upon her own ideas。For non-writers, her process from initial idea to finished work is detailed in intricacy but not didactic instruction。 The creative process she follows can be applied to many arts- painting, choreography, composing, photography。 There is much to be learned from her examples using real-life experiences and and hypothetical examples。Many thanks to the author and Soft Skull/Catapult for the ARC。 。。。more